Would-be tyrants scan the horizon seeking first blood. The peace of appeasement enables all advancing agendas. This peace is always war in the making. Negotiating with tyrants is phase two of every bully’s assent to power. 

You are no longer in charge from the moment you yield to another’s harsh judgment. You find yourself in an undeclared war, to be rudely awakened, as a shocked and frightened lover. 

From that point on, those who drew that first blood will keep you in that inferior role, conditioning you to suppress your rage toward them and direct it toward the innocent. In this manner, tyrants create merciless, inescapable political systems, harvesting the power they need from the debased masses.

As you shall see, there exist two kinds of judgments based on two levels of hostility. Ruthless people express internalized hate; they give ulcers, they don’t get them. Resentment toward unjust judges casts you into that sickly hate-slave peace-lover role.

Abusers have all the power in the real world. Booby prizes for losers are those secret judgments, delusions of worth existing only in a mental virtual reality. 

And so, bullies and victims have this political affinity of infection for one another. Without cowards, there could be no relative bullies, no wicked leaders and followers marching to their glorious deaths; the playing field would be just and even.

It is people pleasers who cause and become tyrants.

So, where do you stand and what role are you playing? Are you going along to get along, afraid of confrontation, always the loving peacemaker giving in to avoid argument? Do you feel strangely protective toward your bully? Do you think your love can save them?

Do you believe that those who don’t put up with such nonsense as you do are hawks and warmongers? See now why so many women are devoted to abusive husbands and boyfriends.

"Secret judgment is an upside-down martyrdom, a compensation for lost worth."

Know through your own experience why evil dictators are worshipped by that kind of Third World mentality. 

Fool yourself that you are a peacemaker if you will, but you are in fact a moral coward, unconsciously surrendering your freedoms as a slave husband, wife, daughter, son or employee.

Those smoldering fires of judgments are energizing your tormentor, empowering your favorite beast to hurt you again and again. But stubbornly you continue taking pleasure in resenting and serving up what is left of you. 

Secret judgment is an upside-down martyrdom, a compensation for lost worth. Even when you see the truth, that the wicked actually rule you in the real world, you outfox them by sitting in judgment upon them in your head. 

In your mind you are God judging the devil called out of the pit of iniquity for the private judgment. Your tyrant’s evil serves a secret and perverse sense of worth and superiority over them.

If those you worship deny you the respect you deserve, then they provide a fresh source of self-righteous judgment, in a dark, win-win delusion of always right and never wrong. The oppressed are so devoted to “existence” that they will fight to the death for mutual glory.

We all have experienced this kind of familiar protectiveness toward an abuser. Some brave soul sees abuse and goes to the rescue.

While some may respectfully throw their hats into the air, others cling to or feel sorry for the tyrant because they are identified; the tyrant’s suffering is also their suffering. Addicted to hating hate objects, they need things to go wrong.

If the world would suddenly become perfect, they couldn’t stand themselves. They are always throwing a monkey wrench into the works, sabotaging everyone and everything, including themselves.

Every tyrant knows the wicked secret of empowerment that innocent people discover only through suffering. Faced with defeat by a nobler soul, the abuser suddenly changes roles and plays the victim.

The moment that happens, sympathy goes to the tyrant. Your hostility goes toward the hero for not being the loving peacemaker that you falsely believe you are.