Emotional troubles originate in the formative years. Some form of family cruelty or disappointment determined your entire future. Certain reactions to look-alike people, places and things act as an unbroken chain that reinforce the past, which in turn compound the present.  

Become aware of any person, place or thing that arouses any irritation, frustration or pressure by its mere presence. It is critical to healing that you notice any person or pressure that intimidates you to the point of obligation, people you cannot refuse.

Watch those feelings in your solar plexus and make no decisions until they pass. 

Resentment establishes problems, and continued resentments reinforce them. Your particular formative experience has charged all familiar environments with a strange kind of energy, affecting no one but you.

The mere presence of a man wearing a belt buckle similar to one your father beat you with confers to him the image of your brutal father. For a young man approaching puberty, the evidence of mother’s overbearing presence might well be the stimulating presence of her or any female’s underwear.

In the same way that the governing majesty is passed down from a dying monarch to his heir, so passes the subtle domineering spirit from mother to daughter. As much as it is convenient to believe that wimpy and violent fathers are the primary destructive family influence, it is not quite so.

"Emotional troubles originate in the formative years. Some form of family cruelty or disappointment determined your entire future."

This should not be interpreted as being critical of women. A spiritual inheritance, of sorts, compels most women to enable needy men. The passive and violent man’s problem lies in his failing to understand a woman’s need, forcing her into a destructive role.

The affection for any fault (food, sex, alcohol) intensify the conflicts that cry out for more fault? The folly of most men is that they crave what kills them. The woman’s problem lies in her response to needy men.

Women respect and experience love only from men they cannot control and those who do not have that unhealthy, destructive need.

Male tyranny can also be inherited. Violence toward girlfriends and wives is more often rebellion against mother’s formative nurturing, a nurturing that turned poison. Unmanly rage conditions children to duplicate and take refuge in the family’s strife.

This dark confusion is often headed by the enabling mother and an absent, confused father. The behavior of such a man is disgraceful. His overreaction to everything empowers the wrong in mother to exert her influence over her brood of feminized or rebellious boys.

Most mothers cannot help but violate their sons, while unconsciously passing to their daughters the mantle of (perhaps) unwanted power. As this power subtly passes from mother to daughter it tends to violate the son, fixating them to a lifelong need-hate struggle with women.

Ideally, mother may exercise appropriate authority over her sons, but only when she is respectfully bonded to a decent husband.