Because the command to "honor your father and your mother" is deeply encoded in every child’s psyche, any guilt arising from hostility toward parents compels some children to first conceal, then deny, their shame. This invariably causes the volatile rage to internalize itself inside the child. Then the unavoidable happens, the child begins a life-long, quicksand-like struggle to regain its parents’ love by one means or another.

Almost all demoralized children grow up to be broken, demoralizing parents. They eventually engineer in their own children the very same harm. Try to understand that you have inherited this proclivity. It is all a matter of programming, unconscious, compulsive and unstoppable — that is, until you find the truth that sets you free.

Children, without ever being taught, associate fathers with God. The way a person feels about the father they can see tends to be the way they feel about the God they cannot see. Positively, the genuine love of father becomes a roundabout way of embracing God, the wordless truth within.