FHU - How to Conquer Negative Emotions - Preview the Book (5 of 6)

your resentment often makes you feel like the guilty one.
“Successful,” domineering, unprincipled people lord it over
you, drain you and make your life wretched; BUT THEY ARE
ALWAYS SURE OF GETTING TO YOU THROUGH YOUR REACTIONS.
        The dehumanizing pressure to achieve and to study is
changing people into animals, animals out of control, in
mortal conflict with other animals.
        Of course, we all respond to pressure, but that response is
what is wrong with us.
        Upsetting you is the key to motivating you; it is the
hidden reason behind all of your suffering.
        Manipulating and winning through intimidation is a
common practice among all corrupters: tyrants, highpressure
salesmen, successful businessmen, and the like.
No doubt you have your own private dictator currently
aggravating the life out of you.
        Only through the shock of emotional upset can a
compelling or morbid suggestion be planted in your mind,
and this is especially true when you are resentful. If it
doesn’t cause wild and senseless rebellion, you find yourself
obliged to give in, to ease the pain that the pressure of
wrong resistance causes.
        Giving in to tyrants and zealots who make the pain of
your upsets unbearable is a common but unhealthy form
of love, loyalty, and closeness between husband and wife,
mother and child, and between churches and their believers.
(It is also the way you lose your identity.) It is hard to say
no to pushy, irritating people.You tend to favor people who
apply pressure: your boss, your wife, and your kids.Then the
breaking point is reached; there is rebellion against work and

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