FHU - How to Conquer Negative Emotions - Preview the Book (4 of 6)

is wrong and, it might be added, making everyone respond
wrongly to you when you have been upset. Conflict with
yourself becomes conflict with others as you take it out
on them.
        Most of the things that are wrong with your life—your
marriage, your health, your children—can be straightened
out very easily by discovering how to conquer your nega-
tive emotions.
        Your emotional upsets have made you feel guilty. Even
though you might have been technically correct in what you
said or did, if you did it resentfully, your emotions confused
you, and when you began to doubt yourself, you experienced
conflict, depression and fear.
        Resentment destroyed your objectivity, and, failing to
see clearly, you made terrible errors of judgment. These, in
turn, led to a fear of making decisions, so that perhaps you
began to lean too much on others for guidance, and you
know how upsetting it can be if those others happen to be
wrong or take advantage of you.
        You must learn how to be patient with cruel and
thoughtless people.You must learn to be poised and calm;
otherwise, what is wrong in them shows up in you and makes
you look like the bad guy. Everyone then becomes so fas-
cinated with what went wrong with you that they fail to see
what they did wrong to you, and that experience is upset-
ting, frustrating and scary.
        Cruel, unthinking people feed off the way you respond
to their needling; they walk away self-righteous and satis-
fied, leaving you frustrated, confused, revengeful and
depressed. They get their power from your reaction, while

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