How to Survive Your Parents

    Sensing your desperation to make things work, your new (and, more often than not, sicker) wife takes every liberty she can, twisting you around her little finger, making your life a double-hell. Because trying to make things work is the work of will, it can be frustrated by other wills. Whereas if you had no will but the Heavenly Father's, you could not be frustrated. You see, His will is there when yours is not. It is simple as that. You need a gracious but don't-give-a-damn-what-she-thinks-of-me out­look. Your new wife and family are expendable, in the sense that your problem can only work out if you stop caring too much what they think of you. You must stop trying to force this marriage to "work" (selfishly for you) . You need not make up for past failings with others. The pride of life blinds and distorts facts; it can cause you to misinterpret the meaning of guilt and to think your past mistakes were caused by your not being "good" enough. Pride will not let you see your false goodness (people pleasing) as weakness, so instead of realizing and finding grace, you become “nicer” then ever.
    You need humility to experience true love. You need to love, to care for, rather than to be loved and cared for. Through patience possess ye your soul.
    A real Mr. Right is not out to win a popularity contest, nor is he so egotistical as to think he can make up for any­thing. Admitting wrong and not seeking support wins the approval of the Father. Therefore, there is no need to care a tinker's cuss what anyone thinks, as long as you know your course is just. With such an attitude, you will be able to perceive reality, to determine what is fair and unfair.

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