How to Survive Your Parents

    She cannot stand for you to touch her, because of what that touch draws up in her and in you. She has seen you become a weakling or beast, and her­self become a coward or beast, until-if she has any honesty left-all she can do is strike out at you like a cornered animal, or scream out her contempt (hopefully with a cry to God to save her from such judgment of you)-which scares you into buying her flowers!
     You have become an animal and, as such, you need affection for the beast you have become . You need to be stroked like a Cheshire cat, to be comforted by your master-corruptor. You womanize and people-please for such comfort, and the gratifying of your ever growing need to be stroked, you confuse with love and goodness.
     From time immemorial, a woman's body has been used (idolized) in witchcraft rituals as a means of calling up the devil. Is it any wonder, sir, that your life is a living hell? What you need is grace, the kind of inward whole­someness that does not need the reassurances of others' love and approval. Do you see how your selfish need and weakness make you part of the system? Without grace you cannot separate from it, you must evolve like an animal and submit to the animal.
     Let me address myself to a Mr. Nice who has divorced and remarried, determined to try harder this time to make the marriage work. Stop for a moment and consider the pressure you feel not to repeat past mistakes, to bend over backwards to please by being more "kind" and condescending than ever. See how your pride is still involved, struggling to make up for failure with one woman through more failure with another, instead of asking God for salvation through His grace. You have not learned your lesson.

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