How to Survive Your Parents
In other words, if a man who hates his vile mother thinks to escape her by marrying a sweet, supportive woman, he has it all wrong. Submissive people-pleasers are seeking the opportunity to dominate. Conquest through submission is a sneaky strategy of the weak, and marriages that begin with female submission end with female dominance. One morning the deluded male is rudely awakened to the presence in his bed of either a vicious tyrant, or a hypocritical, "sweet" subtle manipulator.
The woman, on her part, "chooses" a man who excites her because he is malleable clay. Just as every spoiled brat "loves" those who let him have his way, a woman who was unloved (uncorrected) by a father will attract and favor weak men. But she will never be comfortable with the control she thus acquires. Sure, she may get everything she "wants" -all the material things, but never what she needs and truly wants: correction from having been spoiled. She has chosen a hopeless, romantic, female-worshiper, who in exchange for her approval lets her make all the decisions, and gives her everything she demands, because approval is all he lives for. Also (another benefit), he gets to judge her for everything that goes wrong. The game of pride is to win.
Mr. Nice is never wrong in his own eyes. If he "lets" you be the boss, it's only because he is a born loser anyway. Too gutless to win respect by asserting himself; he gives in to you to get support for his failing and to convert failing into virtue. When things go wrong, he gets another ego boost by sitting on his perch, puffed up with pride, smiling in delirious judgment.
Every Mr. Nice is really a submissive woman inside,
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