Anger Management Strategies
How do you react when your irritating co-worker once again presents one of your ideas as his own and gets warm praise from the boss? If you get angry, you should realize that your anger has no more intellectual or spiritual weight than a bull charging a red cape. It's simply a conditioned response. It may feel like a real and powerful emotion, but it makes you weak.
It might not even derive from the present situation. If your father always favored your brother and ignored you, the emotions you felt as a child might be aroused by your boss and co-worker. Freeing yourself from such emotions will give you power over your own life and allow you to deal effectively with others.
Counting to 10, concentrating on something else, and other strategies that repress or stifle your anger do no good. Anger repressed will come out somewhere, sometime, and often gets hurled at an inappropriate target. Better to understand the roots of your anger. Once those roots are cut, the vine will wither and die.
"Be Still and Know" is a guided meditation exercise from Roy Masters, head of the Foundation for Human Understanding. Using this technique will allow you to detach from the roots of your anger so that you can meet every event with calm and equanimity. A rational, compassionate, understanding response to an irritating stimulus is much more powerful than rage. Download the guided meditation at the FSU website and see how your life can change.
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